Show Notes for Digital Photography Life #13: How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less

Are you hesitant to approach strangers on the street to ask them to take their picture? Do you need to immediately connect with potential clients? Would you like to improve your ability to make your models feel comfortable in your studio?

If you answered "yes" to any of the above questions, you'll really enjoy our guest, Nicholas Boothman, author of "How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less." 

According to Amazon.com:

 "The average person's attention span lasts about 30 seconds. That means first and immediate impressions count, and big. In this modern-day update of Dale Carnegie's classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, former fashion photographer Nicholas Boothman instructs you in how to mold those 30 seconds to your greatest advantage and connect with others at business and social functions.

Boothman, now a lecturer and licensed master practitioner of neurolinguistic programming (the art and science of how the brain affects human connections), says that the key to making others like you quickly lies in establishing a rapport: you have to find out what you have in common or, if you seemingly have nothing in common, purposely try to become like the other person for a short time. He then goes on to offer simple techniques for getting a rapport going: adopt a positive attitude; make sure your words, tone, and gestures are all saying the same thing; synchronize your attitude and body movements to those of another person's (which makes the person feel comfortable with you--although he or she may not know why); and ask lots of open-ended questions. Boothman also describes how to figure out a stranger's favored sense for receiving information about the world--some rely on visual cues, others on auditory or kinesthetic (touch) input--and use it to your best advantage.

If discovering how to connect with others is the secret to business and life success, as Boothman contends, then employing the strategies in this book will make you instantly likeable and give you a leg up on the competition."

Boothman's suggestions are very helpful, and I think you'll really enjoy hearing his thoughts. Not only will his techniques improve your rapport with your photographic subjects, but they'll be helpful in other areas of your life, too. 

We also welcome Lensbaby as a new sponsor of Digital Photography Life. They have a great deal for our listeners - a free  0.6x wide angle/macro conversion lens with the purchase of a Lensbaby Composer from any retailer. Check out this great offer at http://personallifemedia.com/pages/lensbaby.

SmugMug is our favorite site for sharing and - should you chose to accept this assignment - selling your photos. SmugMug has two fantastic offers just for our listeners:

• 50% off your SmugMug service at any level (enter code "Flickr" at checkout). This is a fantastic discount and you should take advantage of it in time to share your holiday photos
• A free camera strap to any listener of Digital Photography Life: This one is just crazy. A high-quality camera strap that replaces the neck-slicing piece of canvas that your camera's manufacturer condescended to include with your DSLR. Get your freebie here. 

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• Scott's first novel, the sexy, funny novel First You Fall. 

Thanks for listening - we'll talk again soon!  
  

Comments

[Peter]

Any chance of putting a link to the show in the show notes so we can download it directly from the RSS feed or if it is there make it more obvious.

[Kevin]

Scott - I've just finished listening to #13 and the conversation with Nicholas. It was great - I really felt like I learnt a lot from that. What a really knowledgable chap. I'm going to send a copy of his book to my ex-wife :-). Seriously good shout to get him on the podcast.

[Jason]

Great show and a nice twist on things to pull in ideas from outside the box! Always thinking outside the box for us, thanks Scott and Michael! (Woo hoo, li'l ole LDP got a quick shout out at the end too! :) )

[Holly Sisson]

Great show! I love reading those types of books so I will be picking up a copy, if nothing else it sounds like a great parenting resource (figuring out your child's type, working with that type) and one can never have too many of those! ;-)

Scott, heard you mention that the judging for the contest will be happening soon. I had a problem with my entries to the contest. I sent the first one, and then after a week (or so) sent in two more. However only one of the two showed up. I saw that, and resent the third one again, and it still never showed up. I see an empty/blank spot in the contest gallery and wonder if that is my entry. I wonder if we can figure out what went wrong, as I followed the exact seem email procedure for all the entries, so it doesn't happen again. I guess it is too late, at this point, to have my third entry included.

[Frank A]

Why never any shows anymore??? Seems they used to be more regular.

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Hey, you've got to quit recommending stuff. Just kidding. I bought an Ex-Officio vest for a recent trip to Korea and it worked out great. As it turned out I didn't get to use it much for photography but for traveling it was super. The only problem is that there was so many pockets that I'd forget where I put something. As I write this I am downloading the audio version of the "90 Seconds" book and plan to purchase a copy for my teenage daughter who sometimes has a problem with opening up and making friends. Thanks for great shows, keep up the good work.

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